Weekly TKD Lesson

Face Your Fear Head on!

“When you face your fear, most of the time you will discover that
it was not really such a big threat after all. We all need some
form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation — it empowers us to
overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams.”
— Les Brown

One of the least talked about factors of success is being mentally
tough. Mental toughness will allow you to endure adversity,
hardship, setbacks and ultimately achieve success.

The next question is – What does it mean to be mentally tough?

– It means when trouble and heartaches head your way – you are not
permanently knocked off the bicycle of life.
– It means when your plan is not going exactly the way you planned
– you press on.
– It means when others criticize you – you refuse to allow someone
else to dictate your thoughts or direction.
– It means you know who you are.
– It means you accept 100% responsibility for every action you have
ever committed.

Now, if being mentally tough is so crucial to success – how do you
become mentally tough?

1. The first key to being mentally tough is refusing to be a victim
and accepting 100% responsibility for your actions. It is not your
parent’s fault, your bosses fault, the fault of the government or
someone you knew when you were a teenager. How in the world can you
be mentally tough when you blame others for your lot in life?
It is empowering to accept responsibility for your fate.

When you consciously or subconsciously blame another (government,
economy, family etc.) for the outcome of your life you are
significantly reducing the chances of a happy life. This is true
because you have given someone else the power to control your
thoughts and actions.

2. Next, become mentally tough by becoming physically tough. Yes,
there is a confidence that you will have when your muscles are
toned and a walk on the beach does not exhaust you. Now, when I am
85 years old do I expect to bench 225 pounds and run 4 miles a day?
Absolutely not!

However, I do expect myself to put forth the maximum effort all the
time so when I am 35, 45, 55 or 85 I am in the best possible shape
for a 35, 45, 55 or 85 year old.

The confidence that comes from being fit is one that can’t be found
anywhere else. Watch what you eat and exercise. It is crucial in
being mentally tough.

3. Set goals and then accomplish them! How many times do people
make New Year’s resolutions only to break them by January 20th?
This is a much bigger deal than you may think. It is a big deal
because subconsciously you are telling your mind, “I can’t even
keep a New Year’s resolution!”

When you tell yourself this subconsciously you then begin lose
confidence in yourself and every aspect of your life is affected.
When someone compliments you – it makes you feel awkward because
deep down you think, “Gee, if they only knew that I can’t even keep
a New Year’s resolution.”

Conversely, if you set a small goal of reading a book a month and
you accomplish it your self confidence begins to build.
Subconsciously you are telling yourself, ‘I am valuable – I am
worth it – I can hit my goals – I am successful.’ When you see
yourself this way, you are well on the way to becoming mentally

In military boot camp, you are given a daily goal of folding your
underwear in a set pattern and making your bed in a prescribed way.
When you accomplish this goal day after day, even though it is so
small, it is making a mental deposit into your self esteem bank
account that says you can accomplish goals and are valuable.

Being mentally tough is often the last piece of the puzzle to focus
on for success. Yet, I know very few successful people who are not
mentally tough. It is easier to get there than you think. Become
responsible for your life, stay in shape and set and accomplish
your goals. When you do you will exit your own personal boot camp
with a confidence to rival that of a CHAMPION!
Have a great week!